Why is it so easy to give up on marriage? Why do more than half the marriages in the US end in divorce? Do people not try hard enough? Do they not take marriage vows seriously? When did the marriage and all that goes with it become a joke?

I personally don’t think people try hard enough these days to succeed at marriage. It’s a job…just like any other. It isn’t a game or just dating where you can break up and go along with your merry lives, especially if children are involved. To me there are only two valid reasons to divorce. One is abuse.

Abuse…either way you look it. Abuse from the husband to wife or the wife to husband. Physical Abuse or Verbal Abuse. However, I do believe that if the abusing party realizes the mistakes and is able and willing to go to counseling and change and be active in marriage counseling as well then there might be a chance. But abuse is one that if the abused party didn’t want to go forward one really can’t blame them. On a side note, I don’t think your husband calling you a “bitch” in the heat of the moment is verbal abuse….unless it’s a common habit. Should you accept that languag? Of course not but to run to the lawerys office over that is a bit extreme.

My second reasoning would be endangerment to my family. If I thought myself or my children were in danger due to my husband then that would warrant a divorce. Again, depending on the circumstance, if the spouse was able and willing to 100% go to anger management, therapy, rehab, counseling, marriage counseling,etc. Whatever it took to change then divorce may not have to be the final decision. However, like before this would be one that you could not blame that person for requesting a divorce.

I think it’s very sad when people just “fall out of love”. You let that happen. If you fell out of love that was a choice you made. You didn’t nurture your relationship, you didn’t grow together like you promised each other to do. You failed and grew apart.